Hello this is my first blog and I am happy to be on here. I am a 44-year-old mother of two boys 6 and 3 year old. I am originally from Canada and studied Library Science and Counselling Psychology. I have an eclectic background everything from private practice to forensic counselling. When I became a mother I found myself becoming more interested in Postnatal counselling especially since I experienced postnatal depression myself.
I joined the Perinatal Society and published a section on Indian Women and Childbirth in New Zealand in a mental health resource guide called Are you Okay, Really? I myself emigrated from Canada to New Zealand and had my children in Auckland. I found out pretty quickly that having children in a foreign country was going to be difficult especially with no family support. Learning how to manage and navigate in different social /cultural ways has been challenging but also liberating. I have fought each challenge, which has enabled my personal growth.
Most of my time these days is spent raising two high-energy boys. Trust me this has been a real challenge for me. With all of my counselling skills I thought I would be able to handle two boys under the age of ten but this hasn’t been the case. Everything has been a challenge for me and I wondered, why am I having such difficulty when I see so many mother’s (and fathers) being able to manage. With much reflection and thought, I have realised that no one has it easy with parenting. I believe many people mask their frustrations because of the fear of showing vulnerability.
My goal is to bring reality to parenting through an honest account of my experience. The ‘good’ and the ‘not so good’ without judgment. We all love our children, even when they fight over iPads or refuse to stop running back and forth through public library revolving doors while other patrons impatiently look upon with disapproval. I hope you all come along with me. It does not matter who you are because parenting is universal. Raising children is one of the hardest and most rewarding jobs in the world.
I didn’t realise it could get even harder when a child has disability. My 3 year was born with unilateral hearing loss (no hearing in one ear) and has resulted in speech and language delay along with some behaviour problems due to his lack of communication. Every day, I am challenged but also surprised and delighted to see his progress. I have previously not had experience in understanding how hearing loss in children impacts the individual, siblings and other family members. This will be the topic of my next post.
Written by Satinder Dherari